Listen, if you’ve ever been told that it’s better to just always be “happy”, that it’s better to run away than to deal with “harder” feelings, that you’re less than because you’re emotionally mature enough to know when to heal, this one is for you. Because I’ve gone through my share of pain and I’m no less beautiful, no less kind, no less anything than I was before it. Through Pain, Amen. Link in bio. 📸: @dylanspitz 〰️
When you begin to trust that you will survive sitting through pain, you begin to experience pain as an opportunity to grow and a series of moments to be proud of.
We get to decide what to do when the weight of the pain starts making its way towards us. We can stand still, brace for it, then deal with healing. Or we can do the opposite. We can go through the motions, or we can thrive. 〰️
Surviving looks like hurt people hurting people. And the thing is that it's hard to pick those people out in a crowd. Those who never deal with their pain look like everyone else. They roll their necks when getting off cross country flights. They flirt, embrace, they even love. Then they’re triggered. Then they combust. The pain can’t stay within because to them that's death, so, instead they turn into sprinklers going off at full force, dousing everyone and everything around them.
Admittedly, thriving is harder to come by and fleeting when you do reach it because it’s not a single moment. It is a series of moments that remind you that you’re on the right path even when it hurts more than you thought a single person could withstand. It feels costly. Like I know its weight in gold because I know its weight in pain. It feels like finally belonging to a team. Because it’s my reminder that I am wanted as I come. Because you can’t own love freely without first trusting that you’ll know how to take care of it, that you’ll know how to stay, during hard times. 〰️
It’s surrendering to love being hard, being painful, looking like staying, looking like walking away when the sprinklers turn up. Because the biggest act of love isn’t sitting on a sprinkler so the water can temporarily stop, it’s trusting that they’ll figure out how to turn it off on their own. #lifestyle #writersofinstagram #streetstyle #createcultivate #neverstopexploring #liveauthentic #latinabloggers #ootd #petitestyle #mystyle #writersofig #lifewelltraveled #risingtidesociety #thatsdarling #solovelysofree #latina #livefolk #livingbrave #bedeeplyrooted #creativehappenings #becomingwild #momentslikethese #wiwt #seekthesimplicity #livelittlethings #thehappynow #boldbraveyou #youbelong #morningslikethese #lovedoes